Girl pals

This is sound advice given by leading relationship experts to men starting the trend of online dating and finding they have to face up to so many related issues they could never have had to think about had they met differently; one of these is meeting the girlfriend's friends and trying to get to know them. No matter how long you may have been putting it off, there is going to come a time when meeting your girlfriend's girl pals is no longer avoidable, so it's better that you get it over and done with in order to build on your relationship and make her feel you are interested in the people in her life, too. Even those who have been dating for some time can feel jittery when it comes to meeting her friends; it is normal for every man to feel he is going to be analyzed and studied under the microscopic vision of his girl's friends who are out to get him – or so it may seem. For women that depend on their friends for comfort, advice, company and simply being alive, it is vital that her man try and make an effort to get to know them; at times, it can either make or even break a relationship. Therefore, it is of crucial importance that a man give his girlfriend's pals due importance too, so they have a good opinion of him. You have to work to gain their trust and liking with your behavior when you meet them for the first time especially, then perhaps, build on that initial liking on subsequent meetings. A lack of interest in her friends may imply you have less than long-term interest in your girlfriend and she may pull away from you thinking you feel less than confident about taking on all aspects of her life, of which friends are a big one. You may have to take the initiative to meet them yourself; assume a confident pose and casual manner that is friendly, without being flirtatious, because some women may misconstrue this as disrespect of the woman you are supposed to be with – and you don't want to damage the relationship by overdoing the friendly bit. Do not allow yourself to get intimidated by them and try and be natural in speaking with them, asking them questions about their lives and work and generally letting them feel important by remembering their names. Try and use their names during different times in the conversation so as to make them feel you are giving them importance and you can utilize word-picture association to do so. Remember above all that conversations are really important to women and your girlfriend's pals are no different when it comes to getting involved in a girly-chat session; much as you'd prefer being on another planet during the times they talk such stuff that bores you, try and take an active part in the conversation to demonstrate you are a good listener. Your woman and her pals too are likely to recognize this effort and appreciate it.