Dinner dress

Many make the mistake of saying too much while they are flirting. The truth be told, you really don’t have to say much. Flirting starts long before either person utters a word. The first thing people tend to notice is how someone looks. After that it is body language and then it is what is said. In fact, by the time you say anything, about 80 percent of the attention of the other party is used up. However, things can still go wrong. When flirting, concentrate on how you look. This is what will initially get you noticed. You should dress appropriately for the occasion. If you’re at a formal dinner, dress formally. If you’re at a friend’s party, go casual but neat. You want to get noticed but not shock others. Don’t show too much off or the attention you attract might be the wrong kind. Next you need to concentrate on body language. Use language that lets them know you’re interested. Make eye contact and smile. Don’t worry about looking obvious. In fact looking obvious is what you want. Pretending not to notice someone you’re interested in never works. They usually leave and the opportunity is lost. Finally, you do need to say the right things. As stated above only about 20 percent of flirting involves conversation. However, you don’t want this 20 percent to mess up the previous 80. It can happen and quite often does. Stay away from the old tired pick up lines. Even if they are meant jokingly, leave them. They are as transparent as plastic wrap and never work. Avoid the desire to be cool and assertive at first. Walking over with a drink before even saying hello is a great way to put someone off. Finally, give compliments but don’t over do it. Be sincere. Phony compliments are worse than none at all.